Dream Visits From a Loved One  / Nikki Lago (Cousin)

Taken from http://www.rachelkeene.co.uk/dreamvisits.html


In sleep, our subconscious isn't selective - it doesn't disregard what we are shown or what we hear.

Spirit often communicate this way so that we aren't forming judgements or dismissing vital information.

If you have a vivid and positive (must stress the positive part here!) conversation with a loved one who has crossed over, don't dismiss it as fantasy - it is real!

Any dreams of negativity or criticism from a loved one or a scary setting is just the mind trying to process grief.



If you can remember details such as where you were (surroundings, smells), what was happening, what your loved one was wearing when they appeared in your dream, then you have been blessed with a real visit.

Having said this, you must ignore any dreams where your loved one was angry, disappointed or other negative aspects prevail, as this is just your subconscious mind acting up in the grieving process.

It is a "Spirit commandment " that they never come to you with negativity.

Dream Visits (as I call them) are a privilege "granted " to those Spirit who feel you need to hear something so important that it must come from them direct.

These visits often don't make absolute sense at the time, nor does their point seem relevant or important, but all becomes clearer when you are ready to accept the information. And sometimes they may feel it is of mighty importance that we just need to see their smile or be reminded of their laugh.

And don't dismiss trivia being discussed either, it is not always earth moving news or pearls of wisdom that are imparted, sometimes you just feel an overwhelming surge of love from them as they smile silently at you.



You can't put a price on these visits so take them for what they are when they happen, gifts from Spirit.

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And it makes me laugh...  / Nikki Lago (cousin/sister)
...it also makes me cringe...

My tolerance is running low for people who thrive on drama. It's always been enough for ME to KNOW what was real when Andrew was here. From the first day he was in the hospital, it IRKED me to see people "grieving" over a guy they had nothing to do with in life. I picked out the people who I knew were genuine, and picked out the ones living in the dramatic moment. Being in his life from the beginning of my own life, I knew. I still know. I knew the relationships he had, who meant what to him, and more importantly, what he meant to others. Did I know everything? No. Nobody ever really does. I just know the really important stuff.

People who didn't really know him suddenly WISHED they did. I still see this happening. Some have convinced themselves that they shared some sort of meaningful bond with Andrew. Maybe it's just a tactic to salvage themselves from their own conscience. Some, I assume, feel guilt for never giving him the love and respect he deserved. They're now paying the price, that some of us are not. I do wonder how Andrew would react, if he could let us know his thoughts on this. 

There are certain people that will remain nameless, but I'm sure they know who they are... or I hope... that used to shit-talk Edward and Andrew on a regular basis. >I've edited out specific details here, because it's a level I'm not ready to stoop to yet<  

Fast forward to the days following Andrew's death...

"Andrew meant everything to me"... "I miss him"... BLAH BLAH BLAH... truth is- YOU DIDN'T GIVE A SHIT WHEN HE WAS HERE -- do him and yourself a favor and DON'T START NOW. 

I can't tolerate it anymore. It cheapens Andrew's spirit, I think. Don't "claim" him in death if you could not do it in his life. Have a little respect, and just keep your mouth shut. You're only kidding yourself. I'm not fooled, Edward's not fooled, his REAL family and friends aren't fooled, and most importantly, Andrew wouldn't be fooled. You're fake. Fake, fake, fake.

I'm done keeping the silence and being nice. 

If the unnamed person(s) doesn't change their ways and GET REAL, I'll have to start content approval again and weed out the insincerities, because quite frankly, they're making me angry. 

Get real. Life is short, so let the ones you love KNOW you love them. Waiting until someone passes away is not the time to declare your "undying love and respect". You had a lifetime to do it. Close

Merry Christmas in Heaven  / April (Friend)
Andrew, it's a hard time of year for everyone. Merry Christmas in Heaven. I love you Close

For your Angel Andrew  / Julie Our Angel Brian

Thinking of you and your family
I am so sorry for your loss
God Bless you
x





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... / Nikki Lago (Cousin)

The ones we love 
NEVER go away

They walk beside us
EVERYDAY

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Andrew...just some thoughts  / April (Friend)

It was just a few months before Andrew passed away that we were at Uncle Rob's wake. And the shock we felt, it was unreal.  And then there we were again, with the same people, with the same family- at Andrews wake.  I can't ask myself why, because I'll never get an answer. And I can't ask myself how? I know Andrews up there partying his ass off, hanging out and doing whatever, but he's keeping a good eye over all of us. We all want to know how something like this can happen to Andrew of all people. Well again, I don't have an answer.  Andrew was there for everyone- no matter who you were.  When Andrew left, he took a piece of all of us with him.  He was a role model and I think thats the greatest feeling- knowing that Andrew has impacted so many different people's lives.  He's missed and he knows it.  I think back to all the years growing up and I wish I could go back to then. We were young, happy and we lived life without a second thought.  But I can't, it's 2006. And its been 2 years Andrews gone. I can't accept it.  I'm having a very hard time accepting it. Will I ever be "the same"? I doubt it.  Andrew is such a part of everyday life- its hard to know everyday that hes gone.  Alot of us learned when Andrew died that we can't take life for granted.  And its true we can't.  But Andrew being Andrew would say eff it. Live your life.  And thats what we have to do. Live it like Andrew would want us to.

Andrew was always good for serious conversation. He was a teddy bear. Andrew had a soft side and he wasn't affraid to show it.  I loved that about him. Thats only one of the millions of things that made Andrew unique. Like he told me, him and Eddie were exactly alike, yet they were different.   To know them is the love them. And they were loved by everyone.  Nill seriously was a household name. It didn't get much better than that.

I know Andrew will be with me at my wedding. The one thing him and I always talked about, the day we got married.  It's going to be hard, and definitely different without him there.  But again, I know he'll be there in spirit. I just wish things were different.

I know I'm going on and on and on, but whatever. Everyone deals in different ways I guess.

I love you Andrew. Thank you for everything over the years. Until we meet again. 
I love you and I miss you

Love always and forever..Apes and my friend loves you too

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Life / Nikki Lago (Cousin)

       I never realized how precious the gift of life was, until lives I love(d) were taken away, and a new life was given to me. Exactly one year and six months from the day I lost Andrew, I welcomed a new life into my world.  
       At Andrew's wake, I asked my mother what the point was... life, relationships, etc. What's the point if it all ends, and it's always painful? She pointed at Dylan, and said "that's what it's all about"... that that was the point. He was, and still is, such a new life. All he was still going to experience. Not all pain, and those around him would share his excitement as he did so many things for the first time, and experienced all sorts of happiness. That makes "it" worth it.
       I see that now in my own daughter, as I take in her first smiles, goos, and gaas, as I prepare for her very first Easter, and imagine all the wonderful things still to come. There is good in life, and I hope to do my best to show it and give it to her. Though she will never know her big cousin, Andrew, and as much as it breaks my heart that he isn't here, I intend to take the positives and share them with her. His sense of humor, his general way of looking at things, his usually mellow demeanor. All of these things are so awesome, and just because tragedy struck, and I feel the pain of his being gone, I won't let her miss out on all of the good that he possessed here on earth. I don't want his goodness to get lost in the ugliness of his being gone. I want to sheild her from the pain losing him brought, and share with her all the rest. 
       Don't know if there's a point to all of this mumbling. Just reflecting on death and life, and joy and sorrow. I think it's odd how so much can be experienced all at the same time, and the human mind has the ability to cope. Life is amazing, isn't it?
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Hope you can see...  / Nikki Lago (Cousin)
Well, your new baby cousin is here. Eddie is great with her - just as long as she's not in need of a diaper change :)  . I know you would be so good with her too. I so wish you could've held her- even just once. She's absolutely beautiful (if I do say-so myself). I hope you are able to share and know all that is happening in some way. Her being here makes me miss you that much more. She's been cheated out of knowing you, and I feel I've been cheated out of seeing you with her and being a part of her life. We all lose out. Love you more than words can say.

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I need you Andrew...  / April Haley-White (Friend)
Andrew, i love you and miss you as always.. but i have a special request..

i need you dru.. my father in law is very ill.. wierd things have been happening the last couple of days... i need you to take him with open arms and show him the way... please let him go in peace and not suffer anymore. i want you to be one of the first to greet him.. Please andrew, I need you right now...You'll love him, I PROMISE...

Thanks Andrew...I love you forever and ever and ever.. :)

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Thinking of and missing you...  / Nikki Lago (Cousin)
Thinking about you all the time, as usual. Life without you still is very unreal and empty. I dream of you often, but always end up so disappointed after I wake up and have a second to readjust to reality. You are so real in my dreams- I like to think of it as your way of hangin' out with me from where you are. It just sucks when it's over, then I have to wait until you show up again the next time...Whenever that may be... I'll take what I can get, though. Lots of changes going on- but no matter what happens, you're always on our minds, and things will never truely be complete without you here to fill in the gaps. All the happiness life can hand us can't wipe away the sadness I still feel everyday. When I see your photos, I either laugh, or cry, or both. I just can't get used to you not being here. Lots of Love....Always and Always....and Always... Close

never forget  / Turbo Werbo (cant be described in words )

too start MAD    (DOGS)   a chant that will always ring in my head, those who know, understand.  usually im not on the comp, we dont really get along.   I felt it was necessary too show my respect as i do everyday, on my own.  I cant show enough tribute too a man that has affected, changed lives and loved the people that meant something too him.  Words cannot describe his influence and heart, he had a personality that no one can match. His life was a gift too us all, and his death is a loss that cannot be explained!  lost never forgotten!  Take care of my niece up there......
          

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Dear Andrew  / Nikki Lago (Cousin)
Andrew, I wish you were here right now. I hate that you can't be here for all that is going on and all that will be happening. You will be known and loved by your new cousin when they arrive, who will grow up watching you in home movies, seeing your pictures, and hearing all sorts of stories about the kind of kid, guy, and man you were. It hurts so bad to have to accept that you won't be here to play a part in person in their life, as we would have hoped. I love you and am counting on your strength to get me through tough times to come.

My love always,
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Andrew.... / April Haley (friend)
Andrew... your on my mind all the time. I must visit every website for you a million times a day, just seeing if anyone wrote anything new, or just to look at pictures, or just to remember. Its over a year and I still cant accept this. I'm mean it when I say my life has changed FOREVER.Its not easy. This wasnt supposed to happen. I have you everywhere. Your ALWAYS with me and I know it.  I was reading something before and someone had said that they found someone that they had heard passed away a few years ago, but actually hadnt. I actually sat there to myself saying maybe that would happen with you. That you were still here. It still feels like a bad dream. You may be gone physically but i have THE BEST memories of you. We had so many unfinished diner visits, and conversations. It was all taken away, at the blink of an eye too. Andrew I want to bring you back and  pick up where we left off.

I know you know the impact you had on everyone. You touched us all in one way or another. some more personal than others.
 I cant thank you enough for being part of my life for all the years. I absolutely loved growing up with you. NO matter what house we were at, we had fun. Remember Eddie shot Butta with the BB gun, or when Mike lived with you..and Devin. Shit even Trevor days.. I would give everything I have right now to bring you back. What sucks is that I cant.

I love you Andrew.. I love everything about you, and what you grew up to be. Be with us always because not a moment goes by that i dont think of you. I love you DRU and i'm glad your at peace.. xooxoxo forever in my heart my mind and my life..
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Andrew.... / April Haley (friend)
Andrew... your on my mind all the time. I must visit every website a million times a day, just seeing if anyone wrote anything new, or just to look at pictures. Its over a year and I still cant accept this. Its not easy. This wasnt supposed to happen. I have you everywhere. Your ALWAYS with me and I know it.  I was reading something before and someone had said that they found someone that they had heard passed away a few years ago, but actually hadnt. I actually sat there to myself saying maybe that would happen with you. It still feels like a bad dream. You may be gone physically but i have THE BEST memories of you. We had so many unfinished diner visits, and conversations. It was all taken away Close

peace / Missing You Everyday
  Last night while I was trying to sleep,
My son's voice I did hear.
I opened my eyes and looked around
But he did not appear.
He said, "Mom you've got to listen,
You've got to understand.
God didn't take me from you, Mom
He only took my hand.
When I called out in pain that night,
The instant that I died,
He reached down and took my hand,
And pulled me to His side.
He pulled me up and saved me
From the misery and pain
My body was hurt so badly inside,
I could never be the same.
My search is really over now,
I've found happiness within,
All the answers to my empty dreams
And all that might have been.
I love you and miss you so,
And I'll always be nearby.
My body's gone forever,
But my spirit will never die!
And so, you must go now,
Live one day at a time.
Just understand
God did not take me from you,
He only took my hand. 
    
                                                               
   
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WILL NEVER FORGET YOU  / JIMMY FERGER (FRIEND)

EDDIE AN FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO SAY IM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT  ANDREW. 1-LOVE 

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friends / Selma Flynn (none)
HI ANDREW JUST STOP BE TO SAY HELLO HOPE YOU AND BOBBO ARE HAVING A GOOD TIME. www.bobbo.memory-of.com Close

We thought of you with love today.  / Missing You Everday
We thought of you with love today.
But that is nothing new.
We thought about you yesterday.
And days before that too.
We think of you in silence.
We often speak your name.
Now all we have is memories.
And your picture in a frame.
Your memory is our keepsake.
With which we'll never part.
God has you in his keeping.
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recent fond memories  / Aunt Dee (aunt)

Although my memory is'nt what it should be over this past year. One of my last memories of Andrew is when Uncle Rob died and he came over on Mondays to stay with the kids (They would drive him crazy) Bringing cupcakes he had made the day before.Calling me at work to tell on the kids. Or the time he scrubbed out my microwave, "cause it was gross Aunt Dee". Or the night he dropped Edward off to pick up my car and I showed him the school. I turned up the sound system with Eminem playing and he was jamming out singing. I miss him more with each passing day. His smile and his giggle.

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